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Question 1 of 1 Attitudes Introduction The attitudes you espouse may change in a few years due to the influence of peers education the passage of time insight and other factors Choose a topic on which you are most likely to have a viewpoint s

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Attitudes Introduction I grew up in a highly conservative family that valued the sanctity of marriage in relation to religious beliefs. Although I grew up with happily married parents, I could never say the same for my cousins who came from divorced families or single parent homes. As a young person, I was taught by my parents to shun my elders who divorced or chose to “live in sin” by simply moving in together. This was a way of thinking that was further reinforced when I started attending a religious private school for my early and high school education.
The school further made the thought of living in without marriage seem morally wrong because of the religious connotation of marriage and its supposed relevance in the history of man. Needless to say, this was something that I strongly believed in and espoused because I knew nothing else and had not had a chance to actually mingle with anyone who was actually not married but living the life of a married couple anyway.
However, I got the exposure to such a lifestyle when I went off to college. I had classmates who were living with their boyfriends and girlfriends off campus in order to save on expenses, aside from the fact that they truly loved and were committed to each other. Commitment, that was the turning point for me. It was that solitary word that helped me realize that moving in together was not something bad. Rather, it was something good because it signified a commitment to each other and the relationship that was entered into. That was something that no priest or licensed government officer can forced unto a couple. Looking around me, I saw that the longest relationships, both in my family and out that I knew about, where actually those couples who were not married. This was positively reinforced in my adult thoughts by the likes of Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russel, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and other Hollywood live in couples. Then in my family, I had 4 happily together couples who were living together. So guess what, I no longer think that living in is such a bad thing. In fact, I would strongly suggest it to anybody who values a committed relationship more than any religious hullabaloo being fed to us by the church. Marriage is outmoded and that, is my personal attitude on the marriage.