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The parenting style determines the interaction of the parent with the child hence its development. Most parents are frustrated trying to figure out the best way to parent their child so as to help them to grow up properly bearing in mind that the first few years of a child’s development depends on the parent or guardian. Parents are therefore supposed to be very careful how they bring up their children as this may affect their personality and development immensely. Myer identified three different parenting styles namely authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive style (111). Though some psychologists consider neglect as a parenting style, for Myer neglect is not a parenting style but a sub-style of permissive parenting. Each of these parenting styles affects the social development of a child in different ways. I was brought up by authoritarian parents. They emphasized much on rules and procedures and strict adherence to these rules. Failure to adhere would result to physical or harsh punishment. Instead of talking to me in a polite manner when I do something wrong, my parents resulted to yelling, threatening or blaming me for the mistake. They always focused on the negative behaviors and saw nothing good in me. As a result, I was always afraid of my parents or of doing something lest it be wrong thus hindering my independence. exploration and experimentation. Since I did not learn to think for myself, I would rather to obey and follow decisions made by others. Therefore I don feel confident enough to make good decisions on my own. I also became withdrawn and anxious and poor in interpersonal relationships or socializing. I also became mistrustful of adults and therefore could not confide in them my problems. However, I adjusted well in school and performed well though I became rebellious in my teenage years. This has affected my social life a lot. If I had been brought up by other parents, I believe I would have turned out differently. Permissive parents unlike my authoritarian parents let their children to set their own limits with little or no parental guidance. They do not consistently enforce or clarify rules hence giving mixed messages to their children (Myers, 111). They also accept all behaviors from their children be it good or bad thus do not give direction or control. They always give in to their children’s demands thus spoiling the child. Some parents neglect their children thus do not offer them parental direction nor emotional support. As a result, the child is not able to cope in a situation that requires observance of rules such as the school and therefore poor performance. Neglected children have low tolerance and have problems with impulsive control. They are also often aggressive. However, children of permissive parents are good in social interactions and have high self-esteem and confidence as opposed to those from authoritarian parents. Authoritative parents are presumed to be the best and portray characteristics of both authoritarian and permissive styles. They encourage child individuality and accept their personality while also setting limits and enforcing rules. They therefore combine nurturing and support with parental direction (Myer, 112). They discuss with the children while setting rules and hold them responsible for adhering to rules. They focus on positive behavior rather than negative behavior and give them support in their efforts. Children of such parents are self-confident, independent, have high