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1 Running Head: LETTER OF ADVICE Purpose: Use this sample Final Paper for a better understanding of what is present in a high
quality Final Paper: Letter of Advice. We’ve included these elements of constructive criticism to
demonstrate that even A quality work still receives comments to improve the student’s thinking
and writing on the topic. Please note that this paper was written when a slightly different set of
learning objectives were being used in this class. Be sure you use the learning objectives listed in
the final paper prompt.
See the footnotes at the bottom of each page for information about what the student has done well
in this assignment and also some areas for improvement. Letter of Advice
Student’s Full Name
COM 200: Interpersonal Communications
Instructor: 1
Use Full Date – September 24, 2015 1 Please use your instructor’s full name. 2 LETTER OF ADVICE Dear Cassy and Jeremy,
Congratulations on your recent engagement. It’s such a great time in your life. My wife
and I have been married almost 8 years. I also just took a class on interpersonal communications
and would love to share with you some of what I learned in addition to some personal
experiences. 2 Knowing how your partner communicates and uses verbal and non-verbal
communication is important in a relationship and will help in reducing miscommunications.
Know going in to your marriage that there will be conflict but learning how to manage or resolve
those conflicts will help in a successful marriage. I know you both love each other very much
and that will help get you through those difficult times. 3 Interpersonal Relationships 4
Interpersonal relationships are part of our everyday life. Getting married forms one of
the most important interpersonal relationships you will ever have. But with any relationship there
are barriers to effectively maintain those interactions. Our self-concept is developed through our
interpersonal relationships and changes over time. Emotional intelligence also has a great impact
on how effective a relationship will be. The amount an individual discloses of themselves in a
relationship can vary depending on the type of relationship and can have both negative and
positive effects. Interpersonal conflict is probably one of the most challenging aspects of a
relationship and managing these conflicts effectively is important to the relationship’s wellbeing.
2 While we usually discourage people from using the first person, this essay asks that the student write a personal
letter, so it is okay to be more casual here
3
This is a good introduction. It would be even stronger with a more definitive thesis statement. The Writing Center
has a great Thesis Generator tool to help students write a thesis: https://awc.ashford.edu/writing-tools-thesisgenerator.html
4
This segment is not required, but it was a nice addition. 3 LETTER OF ADVICE Interpersonal relationships have many pieces. Imagine a clock, there are many pieces that
make up a clock and each one has to be working properly for it to run smoothly. With my
relationship we have set times we sit and talk to each other about anything that is bothering us.
Just like with the clock sometimes you must work on that clock and even make repairs. If you
work to maintain your relationship just like you do with that clock it will run much smoother. 5
Barriers to Effective Interpersonal Interaction 6 Interpersonal communication is something we all participate in everyday and though it is
very beneficial most of the time there are sometimes barriers that make the interaction not as
effective. Along with the many beneficial functions of interpersonal communication come a
number of challenges (Bevan, 2014). 7 Three of these challenges are misperceptions, long
distance relationships, and intergenerational relationships. 8
Misperceptions, Long Distance and Intergenerational Relationships 9 Though interpersonal communications are an important part of any relationship
sometimes there are barriers that make the interaction not as effective. First is the misperceptions
that 10 occur and most of the time the cause of this is noise that affects how effective the
communication is between individuals. For example sometimes work or children will keep you
5 Interesting analogy. The student has also introduced the central themes that will be covered in the paper,
previewing what’s to come. Overall, this is a solid introduction.
6
Again, the learning objectives have changed slightly. Please use the current learning objectives listed in the
assignment instructions. For instance, the new learning objective now says Explain the principles of and barriers to
effective interpersonal communications.
7
The student does not list both authors here and this quote is free-standing. Please be sure to introduce all quotes by
either explaining who is speaking (e.g. According to Bevan and Sole) or starting the sentence.
8
Introducing what is to come is a great way to highlight that the student is addressing three different barriers to
healthy relationships.
9
Good. Because this is a subsection of the header above, the first one should be centered and then this is justified
left. See https://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl/resource/560/16/ for more information on levels of headings.
10
There is a missing word here. I believe the word should have been can. LETTER OF ADVICE 4 from answering a call or text from your significant other and they 11 may take the no response as
being ignored. This is a misperception caused by noise (too much going on). 12 Second 13 is when
you’re having a long distance relationship which can cause money issues because of travel, lack
of comfort, and tension and stress along with several other challenges (Good point. Again,
Bevan amp; Sole address long distance relationship. Cite sources whenever ideas are influenced by
them). Hopefully this will not occur in your relationship but sometimes traveling for work can
cause these issues in a relationship. This occurred in my relationship with a deployment and
doing your best to communicate as often is possible worked best for us, even if it is with emails.
Sometimes it would be a short email maybe one sentence because things were very busy, just
something to let her know I was thinking of her. Letting your significant other know that you
there for them with calls and emails as much as possible will keep your partner and you happy
with your relationship. As Bevan and Sole suggest, these types of distant relationships can have
both challenges and opportunity (Bevan, 2014). 14 And third 15 is when there is an
intergenerational relationship which can cause issues because of being in a different stage of life
which changes communication styles, different economic states, and age related stereotypes. 16 I
know this does not relate to your relationship but it is important to remember that both of you
have different interests and entertaining both of your interests is important to keeping you both
happy. It can also provide new and different insights 17 into the world around you (Bevan, 2014).
You will learn to work together to get passed the obstacles you encounter. Though all these 11 Be clear about the referent. It’s not clear if the author’s use of the term they is in reference to the children or if
it is other individuals.
12
Good. In Section 1.2 of Bevan and Sole, they address noise and this was an opportunity to reference them and
give them credit and get credit for using a class resource.
13
A new topic means a new paragraph is necessary.
14
The student did not include both authors here either. The year only has to be listed in the first reference.
15
Again, this should be a new paragraph.
16
This is an interesting point, but could be developed a bit more to be more meaningful
17
This was an opportunity for the student to explain a few of them. LETTER OF ADVICE 5 barriers could have negative effects on your interpersonal interaction they are barriers that can be
worked through.
Self-Concept 18
Self-concept will not only have effects on your identity and the way you perceive yourself but
will also affect the relationships you form and the way you communicate in those relationships. 19
Researchers believe that self-concept is a complex mix of how we see ourselves, what others
have told us about ourselves, and what society says we should be (Bevan,2014). 20 Though
self-concept is an internal process, it is learned, maintained, and can change through
interpersonal communication 21 (Bevan, 2014). Our 22 self-concept is developed through the
interpersonal relationships we have through the years and can go through changes as we get
older. You can let what others say define you or you can change your self-concept through your
interpersonal communications. Having a positive self-concept will likely help in a successful
relationship. If others say negative things about you and you begin to believe these things it will
likely affect your relationship. This could lead to a bad self-concept and letting this affect you in
a negative way it could have negative effects on your current interpersonal relationships. 23 A
person with high self-concept clarity should experience greater relationship satisfaction and
commitment, in part, because of inclusion of other in the self (Lewandowski, 2010). If you 18 Please center the text here as this is a new section of the paper. And remember, the learning objectives have
changed. Use the ones listed in the final paper instructions – Analyze the role of communication in developing and
maintaining one’s self-concept, self-image, and self-esteem.
19
Excellent point. This is the gist of the importance of self-concept and how it relates to communication and
relationships.
20
Per APA style, all quotes need a page or section number
21
This is another free standing quote. Please start the sentence with something like: The authors continue by saying
….
22
Once again, a new point means a new paragraph is needed.
23
Good point. It would be nice to see the student connect this point to the couple as well LETTER OF ADVICE 6 yourself are more stable than 24 you are more attractive to your partner and can contribute more
of a positive light in the relationship. Cassy and Jeremy it is important to try and work on your
self-concept because this could greatly affect your relationship in either a negative or positive
way. 25
Emotional Intelligence and Effective Interpersonal Relationships 26 Being emotionally intelligent is a very important aspect of any relationship. It is
important to not only understand your feelings but also the person you are having a relationship
with. 27 According to Michelle Pence and Andrea Vickery (2012), being able to listen in an
active-empathic way is positively related to having emotional intelligence, which involves the
ability to monitor, regulate, and discriminate among your own and your partner’s feelings in
order to guide your thoughts and actions (Salovey amp; Mayer, 1990) (Bevan, 2014). 28 In an
article by the American Journal of Family Therapy, they describe 29 emotional intelligence as
being able to recognize emotions in the self and others (Malouff, 2014). 30 Being empathetic with
what your partner has to say is also an important element to your relationship. One of the
primary benefits of relational partners sharing their thoughts and feelings with each other is that
doing so helps each partner understand the emotions of the other person. It is for this reason that
researchers call empathy quot;a central and crucialquot; component of healthy romantic couple
functioning (Bevan, 2014). In any relationship especially a romantic one being an active and
24 Than is used for comparisons, such as This is ‘more than’ enough food. If you start a sentence with if,
which happens here, use then.
25
Explain how and why by using a specific scenario. Also, whenever possible, try to create some transitions
between sections.
26
Please note that the learning objective now also covers self-disclosure.
27
Great point. Having an emotional connection is a crucial part of bonding with others.
28
When using a source that is cited in a source you read, use this citation: (as cited in Bevan amp; Sole, 2014, Section
8.3).
29
Avoid using they and instead be precise and list the authors. The journal didn’t describe emotional intelligence,
the authors did.
30
Use all of the authors’ names. LETTER OF ADVICE 7 empathic listener is important and that is highly related to being emotionally intelligent. If your
significant other is talking to you, stop and listen to what they have to say, be active in the
conversation and show empathy. 31 This shows your partner that you care about what they have to
say, and that is extremely important in a healthy relationship. Put your cell phone down, turn the
television off, plan 10 minutes a day to sit and talk with your partner, it will make all the
difference. If you do not have good communication with your partner there will likely be many
issues in the relationship.
Listening 32
As I mentioned earlier listening is another key factor in a healthy relationship. Listening
skills are some of the most important ways in which you express consideration for other
people—by making good eye contact, appropriately smiling, being engaged with the other
person, and responding with meaningful questions and comments(Bevan, 2014). When you
make your partner feel important and loved it builds a stronger bond. If you do not listen during
an interaction, then you cannot understand others, respond appropriately to what they say, or
provide helpful feedback (Bevan, 2014). Listening leads to better more comprehensive
conversations between the two of you. Cassy and Jeremy make an effort to analyze your
listening skills, and work to improve them. 33
Self-disclosure 34
Everyone has the desire to feel close to others and share stories of their life, but how
much of this self-disclosure should be shared and how soon?
31 When in a new relationship Excellent advice based directly on what the student learned in class. This is how a student can show they are
applying knowledge from the course
32
This works for a discussion about empathy as long as the student clearly discusses empathic listening.
33
While this is an important point, this advice would be even stronger if specific strategies listed above are
reiterated for the couple and maybe even an example of when this might come up.
34
Again, remember that the learning objectives have changed. You must now also Analyze the impact of gender
and culture on interpersonal communications. LETTER OF ADVICE 8 whether it be an online one or face to face sharing too much personal information too soon can
leave the individual vulnerable. Sharing very personal or revealing information may create a
vulnerability that threatens the person’s position in the relationship (Murstein amp; Adler,
1995Terzino, 2009). 35 Giving too much information too early on could lead to being
emotionally hurt. But once in a serious committed relationship it is important to disclose more,
but how much is always a question. Obviously you two are at a point in your relationship where
sharing is extremely important. Knowing who you are marrying, being best friends with each
other is extremely important. Self-disclosure in a marriage is paramount in order to grow trust
with one another. 36 Sharing your inner thoughts and feelings will constantly change how you see
your partner and will help your relationship grow over the years. I know that you two love each
other very much and this should not be a difficult task at first. But once you have been married
awhile and life begins to get in the way, for instance children and career demands it can become
a more challenge task. 37In an article titled Can We Talk? the author talks about the quality of
the communication over the quantity. Obviously you will talk daily but will you talk about
feelings and dreams or just about what’s for dinner and what laundry needs to be put away? I
will admit that this happens with me and my wife, you get busy and your communication
becomes mundane. You do not grow as a couple from these mundane conversations, you grow
and are happier when you communicate how you feel and the dreams you have for your family
and yourself. 38 Quality communication is defined somewhat differently from study to study,
but research consistently has shown a link between happy marriages and quot;self-disclosure,quot; or
sharing your private feelings, fears, doubts and perceptions with your partner (Schoenberg, 35 Again, if a student uses a source that is quoting another source, he or she must indicate this.
This is a crucial point. The student did a great job!
37
The student is approaching the topic from a new angle and therefore a new paragraph is needed.
38
Excellent description of why disclosure matters in a healthy relationship.
36 LETTER OF ADVICE 9 2011). So no matter how busy your life gets make sure you set time aside even just 10 minutes a
day to focus on quality communication between the two of you and you will continue to grow as
a couple. 39
Managing Interpersonal Conflicts 40 There will always be some conflict in a relationship but how it is approached will
determine the success of a relationship. Management of conflict is the most common outcome
but resolution of the conflict is recommended. Although management is the most likely conflict
outcome, it can be problematic when conflicts become serial arguments (Bevan, 2014). For
instance if Cassy tells you Jeremy on a regular bases that she does not like you talking bad about
her family and you say you will not but it continues to be brought up, this is an example of
management. 41 The conflict will likely keep taking place. 42 It is important that instead you find
a way to resolve this conflict, so that it does not continue to happen. This means that there is a
strong likelihood that the issue will come up again and that the parties will engage in future
interactions regarding the issue. Resolution is important and should try and be obtained, these
three things must occur for a resolution to happen:
The parties in the conflict decide to end the conflict.
The parties are both satisfied with the outcome of the conflict.
The parties do not engage in or deal with the conflict again (Bevan, 2014). 39 This is a great point. It would be nice to hear what this growth might mean.
The language now says Evaluate strategies for using communication techniques to resolve interpersonal
conflicts.
41
The student could have been more specific here by adding the word poor to management.
42
The student offers a good illustration of the importance of confiding in others and taking it into account in how
one acts in the future.
40 LETTER OF ADVICE 10 With conflict management you’re basically agreeing to disagree 43 and the conflict is not resolved
and will more than likely come up again. For the well-being your relationship both of you need
to make an effort to resolve the conflict, not just manage the conflict. 44 This could be dangerous
for you both and each time the conflict could grow and cause more stress on the relationship.
Resolution to the conflict needs to occur in order to have a more peaceful relationship. So Cassy and Jeremy in closing if you do everything you can to keep your relationship
healthy by working at it on a daily bases it will run more smoothly. Just as I mentioned earlier it
is like a clock and needs all the parts working together. To have a healthy, happy fulfilling
interpersonal relationship you must work at it. Constantly looking at ways to better your
communication and conflict resolution with each other. 45 Communicating your dreams and
hopes and your inner feelings will help you grown closer and more intimate with each other.
Being empathetic towards your partner will also show each other how much you care for one
another. There will be tough times, everyone has them, my wife and I have them but putting the
work and time into your communication will defiantly46 have positive impacts on your
relationship. 47 Again congratulations and the best of luck to you in your upcoming marriage.
Sincerely,
Student’s Name

43 This is a specific type of conflict management, not all.
This is a crucial distinction. Nice point!
45
This is an incomplete sentence. Notice that Microsoft Word has underlined it in green to warn that there might be
an issue.
46
Be careful with word choices. The student likely means definitely. Defiantly means to do something in a
rebellious way, which is very different than definitely which is synonymous with the term absolutely.
47
Nice restatement of the student’s key points.
44 11 LETTER OF ADVICE References
Bevan, J. L., amp; Sole, K. (2014). Making connections: Understanding interpersonal
Communication (2nd ed.). 48
Lewandowski, G. W., Nardone, N., amp; Raines, A. J. (2010). The Role of Self-concept Clarity in
Relationship Quality. 49 Self amp; Identity, 9(4), 416-433. Malouff, J. M., Schutte, N. S., amp; Thorsteinsson, E. B. (2014). Trait emotional intelligence and
romantic relationship satisfaction: A meta-analysis. American Journal of Family Therapy,
42(1), 53-66. doi:10.1080/01926187.2012.748549 50
Schoenberg, N. (2011, January 17). Can we talk? McClatchy-Tribune News Service. Retrieved
from http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2011-01-14/features/sc-fam-0111-talk-relationship20110111_1_happy-marriages-couples-marital-therapy. Terzino, K. A., amp; Cross, S. E. (2009). Predicting commitment in new relationships:
Interactive effects of relational self-construal and power. Self amp; Identity, 8(4), 321
341.doi:10.1080/15298860802102273 51 48 To make this a perfect citation, include [Electronic version]. Retrieved from https://content.ashford.edu/ at the
end.
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Please only capitalize the first word of the article title. So this should read
50
Omit DOI number.
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This is mostly a very good reference list! English